Building relationships now to avoid the pain of regret – Part One
Good morning, brethren, I would like to write on the topic: “Building relationships now to avoid the pain of regret – Part One.” One of the quiet tragedies many people carry is not what they did—but what they didn’t do. Often, it is the regret of not investing in relationships while they had the chance—especially within family. The conversations postponed, the visits delayed, the love felt but left unexpressed. Time moves quietly. Before we realise it, opportunities to connect, reconcile, or simply be present can slip away. Scripture speaks clearly about the urgency and value of nurturing relationships. It reminds us that relationships are a God-given priority—God designed us for connection. In Genesis 2:18, we read, “It is not good that man should be alone,” and in 1 Peter 1:22, “Love one another deeply, from the heart.” These passages show us that relationships are not optional; they are central to how we reflect God’s love. When neglected, they can lead to isolation, misunderstanding, and ultimately, regret.
Psalm 90:12 tells us, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” This reminds us that life is uncertain. We should not live as though we have unlimited opportunities to reconnect with parents, siblings, or loved ones. Wisdom is recognising that time is a gift, not a guarantee. Waiting for the “right moment” can quietly become a lifetime of missed ones. There are times when procrastination begins to affect relationships—and the cost can be high. Galatians 6:10 says, “As we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family.” We often assume we will reconnect someday, but Scripture reminds us that today is the opportunity. Consider a strained relationship between siblings left unresolved for years because “it’s not the right time” to talk. What happens if circumstances change—through illness, relocation, or loss—and the chance for reconciliation disappears? Again, we are reminded: time is a gift, not a guarantee. Let us also reflect on the parable of the rich fool in Luke 12:16–21. He assumed he had many years ahead, yet his life ended suddenly. While the parable focuses on material wealth, the principle applies to relationships as well—we must not store up intentions while neglecting what truly matters. In relationships, God’s command goes beyond respect; it calls for active care. Exodus 20:12 says, “Honour your father and your mother.” This honour includes giving time, attention, patience, and a listening ear. It means showing up—not only in times of crisis, but in ordinary moments. A simple call to a parent, checking in on a sibling, or attending family gatherings may seem small, but these acts build lasting bonds. Without them, emotional distance quietly grows. Even Jesus demonstrated this. While on the cross, He ensured that His mother was cared for (John 19:26–27). This powerful act shows that family responsibility and relational care never lose their importance.
Furthermore, 1 Timothy 5:8 reminds us, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives… has denied the faith.” This provision is not only material—it includes emotional and relational presence. As we conclude Part One, let us remember that God places a high priority on restoring relationships—even above some religious acts. In Matthew 5:24, we are instructed to first go and be reconciled to others before presenting our offerings. Sadly, many broken relationships persist because of pride or unresolved hurt. May the Lord help us to choose humility, take initiative, and value the relationships He has placed in our lives. May the Lord help us, in Jesus name. Service is for 10.30am and workers meeting is for 10am. God’s blessings - Mike