Don't give or take offence
Good morning brethren, I like to write on a topic “Don't give or take offence.” The purpose of this teaching is rooted in the biblical themes of love, humility, unity, and forgiveness. And of course from a Christian perspective is a powerful way to promote spiritual maturity among believers. Offence is one of Satan’s tools to divide relationships, stir bitterness, and hinder spiritual growth. Luke 17:1 tells us Jesus warned that offences will come, but how we handle them matters greatly. Do not give or take offence is to help believers reflect Christ’s love and character. As believers, we are called to love others as Christ loved us (John 13:34-35). This love involves being patient, kind, and not easily angered or resentful (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). Avoiding offence whether giving or taking demonstrates a Christ-like love that puts others first. We are called to maintain peace and unity in the church as offence can breed division, bitterness, and strife, this weakens the body of Christ. Hence, we are to pursue peace and reconciliation, not conflict. Also we are called to walk in humility and forgiveness, taking offence often stems from pride or unforgiveness. By choosing not to be easily offended, believers practice humility and show the grace that God extends to them.
Be a credible witness to non-believers and avoid being a stumbling block to others. It is not about ignoring wrongs or suppressing feelings but is about choosing love, grace, and reconciliation over bitterness and division. The Bible provides both instruction and illustrative examples on how to avoid causing offence and how to respond correctly when offended. As believers we should not carelessly do things that can cause others to stumble or be hurt in their faith. Romans 14:13 says Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.” We are to watch our words, sometimes it is not what we say, but how we say it that offends. Proverbs 15:1 says “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Apostle Paul admonished believers to live in a way that does not cause offence, especially when sharing the gospel (1 Corinthians 10:32). We are called to walk in forgiveness, Apostle Paul in Colossians 3:13 says “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. This is God’s mercy which we are to extend to others. Jesus thought believers that reconciliation was a higher priority than religious rituals because God values restored relationships (Matthew 5:23–24). Even when falsely accused and mistreated, Jesus chose silence and submission rather than retaliation. He prioritised reconciliation over vindication. Jesus was our example, in Isaiah 53:7 “He was oppressed and afflicted, yet He did not open His mouth…” May I ask you take time to review on yourself - are you easily offended, do you communicate calmly, do you forgive quickly – Do not let resentment take root, do you walk in love? Love covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8). Proverbs 19:11 says “It is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”
In conclusion, let us commit ourselves afresh to walking in humility, forgiveness, love, and wisdom. Let us be peacemakers, not peace-breakers. Let us refuse both to give offence and to take it. Service is for 10.30am and workers meeting is for 10am. God’s blessings - Mike